The holidays put so much stress on everyone. From trying to get the right ingredients to make viral Thanksgiving dishes to finding the best Black Friday deals and dealing with families who cannot take no for an answer, it’s all a hassle.
Holidays like Thanksgiving amplify personal questions, requests or political talks because it is among the few occasions family get together. It can be a great time seeing them, but it can also be overwhelming.
Even though “no” is a complete sentence, not everyone understands this.
Setting boundaries, however, is important! Here are five different ways to tell those pesky relatives, “No!”
“No comment.”
This is the best rejection to personal questions you don’t know the answer to or simply don’t want to answer.
“When are you graduating?” “Are you dating someone at school or work?” “When are you having kids?” Simply say, “No comment.” Then, change the subject.
“I don’t have the energy for this.”
Politics can be tiring to hear and discuss.
Unfortunately, some family members would want to talk about it. Saying, “I don’t have the energy for this,” tells them precisely what you don’t want to do or talk about.
It can work on anyone and any topic–including uncles who lean too far to the right and siblings who talk too much about celebrity gossip.
“I’m not comfortable doing or talking about it.”
Family can push boundaries. Once those are down, it’s a personal task to put them back up and cement them.
Saying outright, “I’m not comfortable doing or talking about it,” can stop them from crossing anymore into your space.
“I’m sorry, but it’s beyond my capacity right now,” or “I’m sorry, I’m too busy with school and work right now.”
The holidays are a busy time, especially for college students.
While a college student wants to sit, relax and enjoy the delicious food, finals are in the back of the mind. Between studying, projects and presentations, college students can’t deal with added stress. Use this to your advantage for those awkward dinner conversations.
“I’m sorry. It’s the holidays. It’s time to relax.”
Be straightforward about what the holidays are for you or how you intend to use your time for the holidays. Be honest and set intentions before more family members cross the line.
Setting boundaries can be tricky and awkward in the beginning. However, it will get easier. Eventually, those around you will be made aware of what you are comfortable or uncomfortable doing or talking about.
Some family members may find it rude, but do not falter. Maintain consistency and reinforce your intentions. Be bold with your nos this Thanksgiving.
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