In the land of Gods, monsters, midterms and deadlines, there is an enormous amount of stress that inhabits a college campus and torments students on the daily. Some choose to get a hobby, others indulge in recreational drugs and alcohol and the rest relieve themselves of tension through casual sex. Most of the time the two parties involved go into their nightly exhibitions with one thought in mind.
Throughout my college experience I have had a front row seat to many casual hookups, breakups and breakdowns which have triggered my interest in figuring out the correlation between casual intercourse and the seat of the soul. With so much sexual culture intertwined in our everyday lives it is not surprising that the effects of our actions are no longer taken into consideration when dealing with one’s spiritual existence.
A few weeks ago, I was having a conversation with a friend about the climate of sex today. As we were talking, he brought up a topic that was quite foreign to me, the idea of spiritual debris. Spiritual debris, as defined by ascended relationships, is when the field of the other person, like their thoughts and unresolved emotions, can become entangled with your field especially during sex. Simply put, spiritual debris is Newton’s third law of motion on steroids, for every action, there is an equal or opposite reaction.
This article is not meant to deflect from pleasuring yourself and freely exploring your options, especially in the sexual realm, but it is important to recognize that you are affected no matter if you go into a sexual relationship being friends with benefits or if you have intentions of beginning a relationship. The borders of the roots of intimacy are not only delicate, but highly invasive. When another human being fully opens themselves up and immerses themselves in one’s flesh, walls are broken down and the only thing for the two souls to experience is vulnerability, no matter if that was or was not the intention. It is unconscious and whether you choose to accept or ignore what is happening is solely up to the individual, but the truth of the circumstance will without a doubt present itself. After repeated sexual exchanges with one person the soul begins to reform and takes on energies of the other individual leading to “catching feelings,” false hope and in extreme circumstances, loss of self.
When dealing with multiple partners spiritual debris is more prevalent. After learning more about the concept, I had a conversation with another friend.
“I didn’t want to have sex with multiple people because of the fear I hold that everyone will have little pieces of me,” I said.
“Don’t think of it like that, think of it as you have all of yourself and little pieces of them,” he said to me.
I thought that was brilliant, but it turns out to be detrimental to spiritual health when you come to the realization of what is true for oneself. Maybe this could work for him, but for me not so much. I am to a certain extent in tune with what I need to be fulfilled as far as human interaction goes and taking small portions from everyone, unfortunately, does not feed my hunger. What I need from another human being and more importantly as a soul is the security of knowing that the intimacy being exchanged between us is not finite, but whole and meaningful.
Does having casual sex weaken your spiritual existence? If you let it, of course. When dealing with the soul and intimacy, sex is the quickest way to penetrate one’s deepest emotions. No matter how much we try and ignore it there is a certain amount of soulful exchange that happens when skin to skin intimacy takes place. The flesh is only so deep, but when our bodies are physically joined the human experience and connection thrives.
“What they may not realize is that others can feel that energy which can repel positive energy and attract negative energy into your life. I always say, never sleep with someone you wouldn’t want to be.” — Lisa Chase Patterson | Chris Bennett/Cooglife